When adults separate, very often they are unsure of how to do what is best for the children. It is important that children maintain contact with both parents as long as it is safe and that the wider family are also considered. It is very easy for children to begin to blame themselves if their parents separate and much of the research shows that children wish for their parents to remain together. As much as you may be going through a very painful experience, it is important to consider the impact on the children very early on so that problems can be dealt with at the beginning of the separation. Patience and understanding will help to reduce tension as children adjust to their new circumstances.
There is further help available and Resolution First for Family has produced a booklet specifically to help parents focus on what is best for their children. You can access the booklet here: Separation and Divorce – Helping parents to help children